Saturday, September 17, 2016

Shaken

Reports of a kidnapping and multiple murder a few blocks from Main Street, along with the escalating opioid epidemic, have left much of Ashland shaken this week. How can this be happening in our community, where we’ve chosen to raise our children or spend our golden years? We want our streets to be safe and our schools secure. We live in the heartland of America, surrounded by corn fields, and yet here we are again, with news helicopters churning up the September sky because a horrific crime has taken place in Ashland, Ohio.

Social media posts have been vicious as rumors have swirled before details were released. There’s been a fair bit of blaming and shaming, accusing the police department, the newspaper and City Hall – and probably President Obama – of turning a blind eye to what’s been taking place here in small-town America. This particular summary made me cringe: “Welcome to Ashland folks. The town full of heroine (sic) addicts, child molesters, and kidnappers.”

We have had a number of high profile crimes over the past few years that have garnered regional and national attention, including domestic violence and human trafficking. The abduction and killings on Covert Court are a terrible, terrible thing, and as one of the victim’s relatives said, “no one should have to die like that.”

But beyond the lurid headlines, what is really going on? I haven’t seen recent figures, but it’s likely the murder rate in Ashland, although sensationalized, is similar to other cities its size. And as the anti-drug rally last Saturday reminded us, we’re not alone in the epidemic of drug overdoses. In Ohio, as of 2015, the death rate due to drug overdose had quadrupled since 2002, and not one Ohio county is immune from its far-reaching scourge. These are definitely not “only in Ashland’ kinds of situations.

As one former Ashland resident reflected, “Ashland has always had a dark side, just like any city and town. As kids, we were likely just buffered from most of it.” That’s how it was for me growing up. While I only lived about ten miles north of Buffalo, my day-to-day existence in Tonawanda was definitely protected from the violence that rocked many troubled urban neighborhoods That was until one Sunday, when whispers of a massacre in the housing projects swept through our church. The father of one of my schoolmates had killed his wife and children, and then himself. A family was wiped out, and our quiet little suburban community was shaken in much the same way Ashland has been shaken.

As one Ashlander noted, no place on earth is immune to evil, and she’s so right. And yet as a community we are not helpless in the face of evil. We can make sure our safety forces have the personnel, resources and training they need. We can institute the best practices of neighborhood watch programs. We can invite dialogue with city officials about the vacant houses on our streets. We can ask questions about police protocol for missing adults. We can advocate for improved support for those struggling with mental health concerns. We can know where our children are. We can report suspicious activity. We can talk with our kids, our teens, our young adults and even our grandparents about the addictive power of opiates. We can pay better attention to those around us, in the neighborhoods, on the streets, and in our homes. No, we do not stand helpless in the face of evil.
And, on the days when we can’t prevent evil from spilling into our homes and our streets, we can still keep vigil in its wake, as we light candles, pay our respects, extend our sympathy and utter the ancient words of faith in prayer and comfort.

Before she was lost to the horror of the Holocaust, the young Anne Frank understood: “Look at how a single candle can both defy and define the darkness.” It’s been a dark week for us here in Ashland. We can sit back and curse the darkness, or we can lift our feeble hands to grasp hold of a candle, defying the darkness and defining ourselves as a people of light.



Monday, September 12, 2016

Heartwork of Hope

Luther Smith encourages us: "It will take courage, strength, trust, and discipline to travel successfully; in other words, it is in the journey that spiritual character is forged." My first published book was Heartwork of Hope: A Directed Journal. When the blank page of a journal glares at us and our minds draw a blank, some gentle, guided questions can help. This week, I'll highlight a different resource each day, starting with Heartwork. With its focus on our individual journey as it relates to the presence of God and the way we see ourselves, it also provides help in looking at our purpose in life, as well as integrity, justice, relationships, and hope. It's available on Amazon, but you can also order directly from me (a much better choice!) for $5 per copy plus shipping. PM me if interested.

Saturday, September 10, 2016

A Sentimental Purge

We’ve recently purchased some new bedroom furniture, and so we used its pending delivery as the needed nudge to purge our collection of t-shirts. What a challenge that turned out to be, but also what a fun walk down memory lane.

Take, for instance, my Cleveland Indians t-shirt with Belliard written across the back. Ronnie Belliard played second base for the Cleveland Indians from 2004 to 2006, when he was traded to the St. Louis Cardinals, who went on to win the World Series that year. A good deal for Belliard and the Cards, not so much for the Indians, who got Hector Luna in return. Luna’s eight errors and .012 batting average in spring training at the beginning of 2007 put an end to that deal. Do you think it’s safe to get a Francisco Lindor shirt as a replacement?

The other Indians t-shirt in my drawer has fun memories attached to it, as it’s a shirt with a nametag: “Mrs. Sizemore.” During Grady Sizemore’s stay in Cleveland from 2004-2011, he became a fan favorite, both for his success on the diamond as well as his dimpled good looks. Many a young (and not so young) Tribe fan claimed membership in the Grady’s Ladies fan club, and it wasn’t unusual for a girl to hold up a sign, “will you marry me?” when Grady came to the plate.

When I wore the shirt to one of his games, a man in our row said, “Wow, you’re Grady Sizemore’s mother!” I played along, unwilling to admit that I was just as smitten with this cute baseball player as were my young female friends. He’s struggled with injuries in recent years, but I sure would have loved for Grady to join the popular Coco Crisp in his recent signing to the Tribe roster. Maybe I should hang on to that shirt for one more year.

I’ve got two Cavs shirts, but given the dramatic finish to the basketball playoffs last year, I’m proudly wearing those. There’s also the purple and gold of Ashland University, the orange and black for the Ashland Arrows, and the Buckeyes’ scarlet and gray. Since I only have one of each, they made the cut. As for the Browns, well, I’m hanging on for another year or two. I’m not overly optimistic for this season, but then again, I still have the Buffalo Bills sweatshirt I bought when they went for their first Super Bowl win – in 1990. They haven’t won the big one yet, but hope does spring eternal, especially the first week in September.

Larry and I have also collected a number of annual musicamp t-shirts, each with its own thematic design, ranging from ‘Armor of God’ to ‘Where is the love?’ However, as much as we cherish the memories of those camps, some of the kids we’ve taught to play an instrument now are signing their own kids up for trombone lessons, so the shirts are bound for recycling.

Here’s the guiding question: will I ever wear this again? If the answer is ‘no,’ then I can’t hold back anymore. I’ve got to play the Elsa card and ‘let it go!’ But just in case, I did keep one each of my Live United t-shirts, Kroc Rocks t-shirts, and the tied-dyed Massillon Museum Island Party shirts. I’m also holding onto the Old Orchard Beach, Maine shirt for those days when I need to conjure up an imaginary whiff of the ocean, and my Independence Day Parade baton twirler shirt, just because.

I hadn’t expected that purging my t-shirts would leave me humming the old Doris Day favorite, but there I was, taking a sentimental journey, renewing old memories and setting my heart at ease before the t-shirts hit the discard pile. Ama Ata Aidoo tells us, “Humans, not places, make memories.” Yet it is the locations, the dried flowers, the photographs, and yes, even the t-shirts, that remind us of a walk along the beach, that magical championship season, or our own “one brief shining moment.” Thanks, t-shirt drawer, for the memories. How lovely it was. I’m so sorry that it’s time for us to say ‘so long.’