In the Gathering Place

In the Buckeye Nation, the rallying cry heard round the state is “O-H,” with the automatic response, “I-O.”  Diehard Ohio State fans take special pride if their infant’s first recognizable utterance is “I-O” rather than “ma-ma.”  A call and response can often be heard in church settings, political rallies and the sports arena, but I was surprised to hear a similar pattern at the recent reception for the first Kroc Center Elder in Resident.

 “If in doubt,” the speaker called, and the voices replied, “rip it out.”  The honoree of the evening was June Metcalf, an Ashland octogenarian whose gift for knitting and crocheting will be featured over the next few weeks.  She’s been a mainstay at the Kroc Center since the doors opened, present in the lobby on Tuesdays and Wednesday to share her love for all things knitted and crocheted.  In the early days, she often sat alone, sometimes joined by a staff member or two who was attempting to find the “knit one, purl two” rhythm of the needles. 

Now, three years later, you’ve got to come early to get one of the comfy seats, as the lobby area fills with people initially drawn together by an interest in yarn, but now held together by a sense of belonging.  While their rallying cry may be “if in doubt, rip it out,” another word of wisdom from June is her oft-repeated phrase, “you can do it.”  That spirit of encouragement and affirmation is contagious, and made June the obvious choice for the first Elder in Residence.      

It’s been three months since Larry and I handed over the reins of leadership at the Salvation Army, and I’ve had time to ponder on the hopes we’d brought to the center, both from our own hearts and experiences and from Joan Kroc’s legacy and vision.  Many of those dreams were expressed in the naming of the spaces in the new facility.

It made sense to call the gym area the Fun Zone, and lots of fun has been experienced in its space and in the companion Field House (soccer field).  Between the roller skaters, the bounce house bouncers, the budding soccer stars and the graceful dancers at the KC Big Band events, there’ve been plenty of smiles and lots of laughter in the building, especially within the walls of the Fun Zone.  Good choice of names.

A space for worship at the Salvation Army was also essential, and the chapel with its glorious stained-glass wall invites many to express their faith through prayer and praise.  Yet we chose to name a smaller room the “Sacred Space,” and that’s become a home for all kinds of sacred activities, as people have come together to study the Bible, to support families through the Salvation Army’s LINCS program and the Family and Children’s First Council care team meetings, and to simply have a quiet setting for personal counsel under the watchful eyes of the stained-glass Jesus and the children.  Another fitting choice. 

A third name assigned in those early days of planning was the Gathering Place, a title that didn’t seem to stick, as most of the time we simply called it the Lobby.  Boring.  Yes, it is a vestibule, an entrance hall to the facility that serves as a reception area for the Center.  But as I thought about June and the knitting circle, I realized that whether it’s called the Gathering Place or not, this entrance area has become the center’s front porch, a place for all people in our community to gather together.   It’s rivaled in the summer by the Adirondack chairs of the backyard spraypark, but year round, the Gathering Place brings people of all ages, backgrounds, and interests together.  While a sense of inclusion may have started with Joan’s dream, it has been richly nurtured by June’s faithfulness.

I can’t wait to see who the next Elder in Residence will be – and what his or her gifts are bringing to our community.  But in the meantime, whether in the Gathering Place at the Kroc or the yarn aisle at the store, I’m ready.  If I hear “when in doubt,” I’m answering, “rip it out!”  Yeah, June! 

Team Hope!

We wear messages around our wrists, both to remind us of a person or of a cause that we support, and to witness to those around us about what matters most to us.  In grade school it was a friendship bracelet, woven of various strands that braided together the hearts of little girls.  The bracelet of my teen years was the Viet Nam POW/MIA bracelet, remembering and praying.  In the 1990’s, it was a WWJD bracelet, asking What Would Jesus Do, the life-changing question raised in Charles Sheldon’s book In His Steps.   Over the years we’ve worn silicone bracelets in the colors of our favorite cause, in the hues of school spirit, and to proclaim our faith.  Now, Ashland County residents will be sporting blue bands around our wrists, signifying that we are a member of Team Hope, this year’s focus for the United Way campaign.

In the battle for hearts and lives that Team Hope fights daily in the United Way partner agencies that serve our community, the adversaries are stealthy.  There’s no one menacing opponent in the boxing ring, no eye-to-eye contact with the enemy in a goal-line stand.  The forces and circumstance that challenge hope sneak up on us, often starting as deficits in childhood that persist in adulthood, and sometimes are exasperated by self-inflicted wounds.  At other times, the attack is random and catastrophic – a fire, an accident, a pink slip, a dreaded diagnosis.  But however they come, they hit hard, threatening to overwhelm our brothers and sisters who lack the resources to handle them.    

                My first published book was entitled The Heartwork of Hope.  As I sat at the United Way campaign kick-off breakfast on Thursday, I kept thinking about that title.  I worked for 34 years in Salvation Army ministry that believes in the heartwork of hope, the spiritual journey with its works of faith, confession, repentance, and service to others.  Yet I was struck by a similar phrase vying for my attention– the hard work of hope. 

                Hope is hard work.  For someone battling depression, it’s hard work to get out of bed and face the day.  It’s hard work for the unemployed to beat the pavement (or the internet )in search of a job that can feed your family.  And it’s hard work to hope for a better tomorrow when the doors of today are slammed in your face.

The people of Ashland get that.  We know that some of our neighbors struggle every day, working hard to hold onto a thread of hope.  That’s why the staff and volunteers of United Way work hard all year to raise funds and to increase awareness of the needs of people in Ashland County. 

If I’ve discovered one thing since moving to Ashland six years ago, it’s that Ashlanders are not afraid of hard work.  If it helps our brothers and sisters, we’ll lug boxes, plant seeds, wait on tables, rake leaves, read to children, test-drive cars, grill Wonder dogs, and even decorate Christmas trees.  And yes, we’ll give sacrificially as well to keep that hope alive. 

At the kickoff breakfast, the Samaritan Regional Health System team was courageous in naming the charter members of the opposing team: despair and apathy.   Be on notice, you two: as Team Hope members, we’re calling you out.  Team Despair – we know you try your best to get us to lose hope but we’re refusing to give in.  Team Apathy – we’re not joining up.  We’re committed to care about our sisters and brothers.  We’re not willing to slink around our community with our eyes to the ground, being bullied by despair and refusing to look hope in the face.  We’re donning our Live United T-shirts, stretching the Team Hope bracelets around our wrists, and taking up the challenge.   Team Hope!  Team Hope!

It’s who we are as people in community.  As we live and work together, we can be a community where, as the Samaritan volunteers proclaimed, “despair and apathy don’t get a second chance. “   One donut, one dime, one dollar, one donation at a time.   

It's Time for Some Real Football!

I enjoy reading  By the Way, the Times-Gazette’s review of the entertaining odds and ends from around the county that’s published each Saturday.  A recent comment noted that the Ashland police had a number of calls concerning what sounded like a cannon being fired throughout the evening.  You guessed it – it was the celebratory cannon at Jack Miller stadium, as the Ashland University Eagles scored against their opponents.  Yes, my Ashland friends, football is back!  I’ve had my first popcorn at Community Stadium, and all is right with the world.  Still waiting for those funnel cake fries at AU! 

I’ll agree not to write about the Cleveland Browns if you don’t remind me how badly the Buffalo Bills are doing – again.  Hope springs eternal, but it just doesn’t’ seem right that Cleveland and Buffalo sports fans can’t catch a break.  Out of the 19 million people who play fantasy football, at least half of them are probably discouraged Browns or Bills fans – at least in fantasy football they stand a chance of winning!  OK, I’ll stop now, because football isn’t really about the Browns, the Bills and the team that wears black and gold.  No, we’ve got high school and college football!

Ohioans watch with delight as the Buckeyes march up and down the field at the Horseshoe.  And Eagle fever has taken hold in our town as we head to the stadium or listen for the cannon, especially since our hometown boys are finding success on the campus gridiron.  But still, there’s nothing like Friday night at a high school football game

What continues to draw Ashland county residents to watch the Arrows, Mounties, Redbirds Falcons and Pirates?   After all, it’s just a game, and potentially a risky game at that.  I was disappointed but also relieved when our oldest son chose marching band over football, although when I saw him playing a bass drum while standing on his head, I did cringe a bit.  But athletics, like life, involves risk, and participation in high school sports helps our adolescents focus on achievement, train their bodies, and trust their team – lessons that will last well into adulthood.

Yet it’s so much more than a game.  My high school had the tradition of a T-NT game that concluded the regular season as Tonawanda battled North Tonawanda for the championship of the twin cities – nearly as spirited as the Massillon-McKinley rivalry.  A car parade, pep rally and bonfire led up to the football contest, and as we cheered our team on, it was with a spirit of community pride.  It sounds silly from the perspective of nearly 40 years, but we were proud to sing, “We are the warriors, the mighty, mighty warriors, everywhere we go, people ought to know, who we are, so we tell them.”  Win or lose (and we lost more than we won), we were proud to be from Tonawanda High School.  School pride, community pride – Friday nights help us to stand tall.        

It’s also about perseverance.   I want to give a perseverance shout-out to the Mapleton Mounties.  They’ve struggled on the football field for quite some time, and lost their first game of this season this year.  We watched Coach Ray Frisbee play for GlenOak  and AU, and felt his pain with that one more opening loss.  Yet Ray had hope: “We obviously wanted a better first half but we'll regroup and find a way to get better by next week.”  That’s what perseverance is about, and the next two weeks brought two wins to their record.  That’s a lesson we want to teach our kids.

And ultimately, it’s about our kids.  While there’s only one star quarterback per team, there are hundreds of kids in Ashland County who practice day in and day out, play in the band,  leap into the air on the cheerleader squad, excel on the soccer field, golf course and cross country trail, and  rock the student section of the stadium.  On Friday nights, we as a community have the opportunity to embrace our kids, honor their perseverance, and send them the message, “we’ve got your back.”      

Fight on, Arrows, Mounties, Falcons, Redbirds and Pirates.  See you Friday night!

Remembering . . .

Larry and I were privileged to serve with the Salvation Army in the aftermath of the World Trade Center attack of 9-11.  Returning to our room each night, I submitted a column to the Canton Repository, helping the folks at home to connect with the devastation and hope in New York.  The following was my first submission (10-3-01).  Seems like yesterday . . .

The images of our first day in New York post 9-11 both assaulted and comforted us.  The assaulting images hit as we arrived in New York City late Sunday night, with our first sight a grave reminder of September 11.  That grand old lady of the city, the Empire State Building, stood alone, abandoned by her bookend rivals.

The Salvation Army headquarters on 14^th Street was our destination, with a brief orientation as to what we would be expected to do.  Our first day included stops at the medical examiner’s office; Worth Street, the one-stop social service office for displaced workers, families and airline employees; and Ground Zero.

Heading downtown, we could see the dust and smoke as we approached the site and passed through the checkpoints staffed by police and military.  The access to “the zone” was very limited, but our Salvation Army credentials got us through, and we worked with a team to evaluate the needs of the feeding sites and to plan a reorganization and cleanup effort that lasted until midnight.

Even the constant television coverage since the attack had not prepared me for the totality of the devastation.  Beyond the tangled mass of rubble that had once proudly graced the sky, the blocks surrounding the World Trade Center site were bombed out, an empty Borders store staring at me from the destruction.

Yet amid the horror, there were images of hope.  Neighborhood fire stations, with their altars of flowers and pictures.  Incredible stories of the workers.  Letters from children from all over the world hanging from Salvation Army and Red Cross canteens.  The man who drove to Manhattan from New Jersey in a rented truck with snack bags packed by the children in his school, each one with a crayoned message of hope for those who serve. 

If the terrorists managed to destroy the buildings on West Street in lower Manhattan, it is obvious that they were unable to destroy the spirit of the people of New York – or of America.

Pick Me!

“Pick me, pick me!”  It’s the chant of the kindergartener wanting to be the line leader and the freshman running for student council.  It’s also the common message of the commercials that are relentlessly flooding the airwaves.  “Pick me, pick me!”

                How do we choose?  Consider the scenarios.  Does the kindergarten teacher choose the child jumping up and down in her enthusiasm for the role, or the one whose behavior has indicated that he can perform the task of leading others well?  Does the freshman class vote for the most popular, the one with the funniest speech, or the one committed to improving cafeteria meals?  And for President of the United States, who do we choose?  Experience, issues, popularity?  The most entertaining or least offensive commercials?  In our contemporary world of sound bites and tweets, do we vote for the one who makes the most noise, the most promises, or the fewest gaffes?  

In the midst of all the hype, how do we sort out what is true?  A phrase used during the presidential primary race to describe a certain candidate is perfect to illustrate what happens in the electoral process – it’s like a manure spreader in a windstorm.  How can the average voter sort out the issues while the air is so fragrant?

Here’s one example that hits us every time we put gasoline in our vehicles – the price at the pump.   Has the price of gas really doubled since Obama took office?  Is the current president to blame for the high prices of gasoline, and if elected, could Mr. Romney reduce the price of gas in time for our next vacation?  What’s really going on?

My friend Google pointed me to GasBuddy.com, where I found a graph of gas prices from 2008 to today.  Yes, the little sticker we see on some gas pumps is correct.  The cost of a gallon of that precious essential has doubled since the current president was elected/took office. 

No, that can’t be.  When was gas under $2 a gallon?  How did I miss that?  The reason I don’t remember it well is that prior to the precipitous drop right around the election of 2008, a gallon of gas had risen to $4, just in time for our summer vacation of 2008.  Its decline to under $2 per gallon lasted about 2 months, beginning its price rise even before President Obama was inaugurated.    

So, my next question is – was that the president’s fault?  His responsibility?  Did the price of gasoline, having reached an all-time high under a republican president, decline dramatically in anticipation of the election of a democrat?  Probably not.  Did President Bush work some kind of magic to reduce gasoline prices in his last few months in office?  Nope, not likely.  Or does the price of gasoline fluctuate based on Wall Street, the weather in the Gulf of Mexico, and other factors of supply and demand, rather than who is in the White House?  Well . . .

After being bombarded with political ads that proclaim to tell us the truth, how can the average voter figure it out?  Some websites promise to check the facts for us, but the browser must consider the source of the website to ascertain its bias.  It’s important to listen carefully, to ask questions, and to dig into the facts for ourselves.  And here’s a hint - if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it probably is a duck, even if it says it’s a donkey or elephant.

An Abbott and Costello film clip is a timely reminder for these days of inventive truth-telling.   In his classic comedy routine, Lou Costello uses addition, multiplication and division to prove that 13 x 7 equals 28.  The gag went so well the first time (In the Navy, 1941) that it was also included in A Little Giant in 1948.  Now you know and I know that 13 x 7 does not equal 28, but given the right amount of persuasion, confusion, and repetition, it’s possible to be convinced of almost anything.  That’s called being bamboozled.  Not the best way to pick the president of the USA.