Sunday, March 29, 2015

The World Without Music?

From the Ashland Times-Gazette

Andrew Greeley, a Catholic priest and prolific novelist, asked, “What would the world be like without music?” Greeley concluded, “We would still be humans and life would go on, but it would be much more difficult to mourn our losses and celebrate our loves.” I thought about his words as I left Ashland University’s Hugo Young Theater last Friday night, filled to the brim with the magical music featured in the concluding program of the annual Maplerock Jazz Festival.

What a gift we are given in music. As a young child, my dad faithfully drove me to piano lesson with Miss Wambgantz, an elderly German woman with a thick accent. Each week, my parents paid for that lesson, likely a financial hardship in the weeks of unemployment my carpenter father faced during Buffalo’s harsh winters. So yes, enthusiastic about it or not, I was expected to practice every day, even sunny days when my friends were gathering outside.

Over time, the music began to seep into my soul. I couldn’t wait to become a fifth-grader, the year instrumental music started in school. Group flute lessons led to the fledgling fifth grade band, and we were so enthralled with our ability to make music together that we formed a neighborhood combo. In junior high school I switched to bassoon, and over the next six years, I spent just about every study hall in the band room.

But what if there had been no music classes, no band, no choir, no musical? The joy of music is one of the reasons I’m paying attention to what’s going on in Ohio with the 5 to 8 rule. It’s been in effect since 1983, and requires school districts to hire five of eight specialized staff or teachers for every one thousand students. These specialties include librarians, music, art, and physical education teachers, social workers, nurses, counselors and visiting teachers. In effect, the law has said that no matter whether a child is poor or wealthy, his or her school must go beyond the common core (what we used to call reading, writing and arithmetic), and offer classes and supports that enrich the life of each student far into adulthood.

In December 2014, the first step in eliminating this law was taken by the Ohio Board of Education as they voted to repeal that language. While it’s not a done deal yet, about ten days ago, the legislative Joint Committee on Agency Rule Review rejected an effort to quash the proposal by a 6-4 vote. So unless the OBE has a change of heart, the rule change will be confirmed at their May meeting.
Generally, the most obvious way to balance a school district budget is to cut personnel costs. Local school superintendents have numerous mandates and many fixed costs, so without the mandate of the law, struggling school districts may choose to have one less music teacher, librarian, guidance counselor or art teacher.
Supporters of the rule change want to give more flexibility to the local school districts in these matters, and say the rule really isn’t needed. State board member Ron Ruddick explains why he supported the change: “I’m familiar with a lot of superintendents throughout the state. And I just think districts are going to do what’s right for kids.”
Perhaps he’s right. My parents did what was right for me, although the cost of lessons must have stretched the family resources at times. But not all parents make the right choice. Will all school districts?
Jazz pianist Benny Green, one of the guests at the Ashland University jazz festival who brought such delight to the audience last weekend, says it this way: “I’ve had so much help and support in my life. Today I realize that the nature of true foundational support is that it continues and it deepens – its effect on one’s life spreads far and wide to others.” Here’s hoping that the common core of foundational support that our kids need to thrive into adulthood will continue to include the gift of music, spreading far and wide to others. For indeed, what would the world be like without music?

God as the Bridegroom

IN RELATIONSHIP
GOD AS BRIDEGROOM

I saw that [our Lord] is to us everything which is good and comforting for our help. He is our clothing, who wraps and enfolds us for love, embraces us and shelters us, surrounds us for his love, which is so tender that he may never desert us. And so in this sight I saw that he is everything which is good,
as I understand.
Julian of Norwich


We return to a celebratory frame of mind in this chapter as we encounter the image of God as bridegroom. We might anticipate that this is strictly a New Testament image for Jesus, but we find a number of Old Testament references to God as a bridegroom, with this hope-filled one from Isaiah 62:5. “As a bridegroom rejoices over his bride, so will your God rejoice over you.”
 We first find this image on the pages of the New Testament in John 3, verses 27-30, when John the Baptist tells his disciples: “The bride belongs to the bridegroom. The friend who attends the bridegroom waits and listens for him, and is full of joy when he hears the bridegroom’s voice. That joy is mine, and it is now complete.” Jesus also used this term to describe himself in Mark 2:19, “How can the guests of the bridegroom fast while he is with them? They cannot, so long as they have him with them.”
            The image is mentioned in a number of other New Testament references as the church is called the bride of Christ, putting Jesus in the role of the bridegroom. And finally, in the 19th chapter of Revelations, verse 7, we find a glorious reference to Jesus, the Lamb, as the bridegroom. “Let us rejoice and be glad and give him glory! For the wedding of the Lamb has come, and his bride has made herself ready.”
            Here is the breathtaking truth of the gospel. Our God is a bridegroom who is waiting for us!  We picture the bridegroom standing in the front of the church, anticipating the entrance of his bride. While all eyes may be on the bride as she enters, it is the bridegroom whose eyes are brimming over with love for her. As people who accept the love of God, we are looked upon with the love that a bridegroom has for his bride – a love that brings with it a desire to protect, to honor, and to cherish.
What we see in the image of the bridegroom is that the love of God is all-encompassing – as the love of a bridegroom for his bride, the love of Christ for the Church, the love of God for his children. Here we have a beautiful picture of the God who tells us through the prophet Jeremiah, recorded in Jeremiah 31:3: “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.”
Hear the image of the loving God in The Interior Castle by Teresa of Avila, This Beloved of ours is merciful and good. Besides, he so deeply longs for our love that he keeps calling us to come closer. This voice of his is so sweet that the poor soul falls apart in the face of her own inability to instantly do whatever he asks of her.
Here is how a more contemporary thinker, psychologist Dan Allender, uses the image of bride to describe our relationship to God: What does it mean to fear God? It means to be anxious and eager to greet him. It means to build our lives around the call of being his bride, to anticipate the pleasure of love and the aroma of passion. To fear God is to be consumed with His presence. To fear God is to fear the intense, radically other-centered love.
This image of God brings us to a point of decision. Will we be like the runaway bride who flees the bridegroom awaiting her on their wedding day, or will we walk with joy to the altar of faith and become the cherished bride of Christ? And even for those who have been following Jesus for many years, each day brings the opportunity to greet our bridegroom with new eyes and with a renewed heart. Might it be so.


HYMN

My Jesus, I love Thee, I know Thou art mine;
For Thee all the follies of sin I resign;
My gracious Redeemer, my Savior art Thou;
If ever I loved Thee, my Jesus, ’tis now.

I love Thee because Thou hast first loved me,
And purchased my pardon on Calvary’s tree;
I love Thee for wearing the thorns on Thy brow;
If ever I loved Thee, my Jesus, ’tis now.

I’ll love Thee in life, I will love Thee in death,
And praise Thee as long as Thou lendest me breath;
And say when the death dew lies cold on my brow,
If ever I loved Thee, my Jesus, ’tis now.

In mansions of glory and endless delight,
I’ll ever adore Thee in heaven so bright;
I’ll sing with the glittering crown on my brow,
If ever I loved Thee, my Jesus, ’tis now.
William Featherstone





POIEMA

bridegroom

the bridegroom waits
lohengrin’s poignant invitations swells
the very air vibrates with eager anticipation
an aura of holy expectancy grips the scene
passionate patience

the bridegroom sees
eyes feast upon the radiant beloved
nakedness bathed in billows of purest white
drinking in her beauty, spotless, unstained
unclouded vision

the bridegroom moves
gently lifts gomer’s muddied veil
tenderly caresses magdalene’s trembling hand
whispers my name in welcoming mercy
ultimate forgiveness

the bridegroom embraces
heaven’s primordial vow fulfilled
arms enfolding, to have, to hold into eternity
mystical union now consummated, one flesh promise sealed
perfect constancy

the bridegroom rejoices
mendelssohn’s chords of exultation peal from heaven’s organ
extravagant grace pours from the soul of the almighty
cherished daughter now the glorious God-bride
joyous celebration

INTO OUR HANDS, INTO OUR HEARTS

  • Prayerfully consider what it means to you to prepare your house for the return of your beloved.
  • Do some reading on the Catholic tradition of nuns becoming the bride of Christ.
  • Watch The Runaway Bride.
  • Listen to Kim Hill as she sings Holy, You Are Still Holy.
  •  If you’re a woman, think about the dress you would wear as you await God as the bridegroom.
  • Look at wedding pictures.
  • Prepare a wedding feast for the Lamb and invite fellow believers to share in it with you.
  • Convince a friend to go with you to a bridal show just for the fun of it.
  • Sing Samuel Stone’s hymn, The Church’s One Foundation:
The Church’s one foundation is Jesus Christ her Lord,
She is His new creation by water and the Word.
From heaven He came and sought her to be His holy bride;
With His own blood He bought her and for her life He died.
PRAYER

O Lord, my waiting bridegroom.
I am ready.
I want to know you more,
I want to love you deeply,
and I want to be embraced in your love.
My face is aglow with anticipation of your overwhelming love.

In your precious name, Amen.

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Saturday, March 21, 2015

Peace in Our Times

As we raised our sons, a number of parent-speak phrases frequented our lips. “Because I said so.” “One day you’ll thank me for this.” If your friends jumped off a bridge, would you?” “Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about.” “Don’t make me pull this car over.” Now that our boys are adults, we can chuckle at how often we repeated the same words our parents had said to us (that we swore we wouldn’t use with our kids), and now hear our son repeat as he enjoys life with the lovely Madelyn Simone.

One phrase that we didn’t pick up until late in our parenting career is this, compliments of my friend and former Kroc Center staff member Barb Arnold: “No violence or threats of violence.” Of course, that doesn’t go too well with the “I’ll give you something to cry about” threat, but it sets a standard for behavior within the home, the classroom, and the community center. Translated, it says, “While we’re here, while we’re together, violence is not OK. We will find another way to resolve our differences.”

But is that possible? We’re surrounded by violence and its consequences. My dad served in World War II, and he saw the horrors of the aftermath of war firsthand in the Philippines. I spent much of my childhood entrenched in sibling rivalry with my brother, which often spilled over into a punch or two. My boys turned their Legos into guns and swords. We can’t escape from its pervasive influence. Violence is as ancient as Adam and Eve, Cain and Abel. In a world where the violence of ISIS, Boko Haram, and the playground bully continue to dominate their respective domains, is it utter foolishness to think that we can really give peace a chance?  

There are many people in the greater Ashland community who believe that the peaceful resolution to conflicts great and small is possible. Under the banner of the Ashland Center for Nonviolence, like-minded people will gather for the ACN’s first conference a week from today. Their goal is lofty: is to respond seriously to challenges, questions and objections to nonviolence. Helping them do so will be keynote speaker Dr. Robert Brimlow of St. John Fisher College, who is the author of “What About Hitler?” Brimlow and a number of other presenters will encourage the discussion of nonviolence in the face of injustice, certainly a timely subject in the month when we mark the fiftieth anniversary of Selma, the on-going disruptions in Ferguson, and the continuing turmoil in many troubled areas of the world. (Registration is open until March 24, with information at the Ashland University website).

The various presenters at the conference will wrestle with how nonviolence answers the problem of evil in the world, especially in the face of atrocity and horror. Is it viable and/or practical, as Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. urged so many years ago, to “continue to work with the faith that unearned suffering is redemptive?” Will justice ever roll down like water?

The question is not only political or theoretical, for we can be faced with the menacing possibility of violence when we least expect it. Blogger Lori Freeland tells of her reaction to an encounter in a movie theatre that threatened to turn ugly: “I tell my kids to find the take-away in any bad situation. We can’t change how people treat us, we can learn something – even if all we learn is how not to treat other people.” She continued: “My take-away from today? Be kind. All the time. No matter what.”

We can make pronouncements to our kids, our community, and our world, such as no violence or threats of violence, or “be kind all the time,” but what do we do when others don’t listen? That’s a tough question, but it’s one the conference presenters will thoughtfully and courageously ponder and debate.
In 1938, John Oxenham penned these words, “Peace in our time, O Lord, to all the peoples – peace.” We seldom sing his hymn in these days, but its echo will be heard on the AU campus on March 28th. Peace, in our time, in our world. Amen. 

Saturday, March 14, 2015

Ashland's Bicentennial

During our family’s visit to Disneyworld in February, the lovely Madelyn Simone proudly wore her happy birthday button pinned to the shoulder of her princess dress-of-the-day. Disney cast members (employees) are trained to look for those buttons, so invariably they would greet Madelyn with the magic words, “Happy birthday, Princess.” Of course, she would respond with the perfect curtsy.

So it was with great interest that I read of the “Little Princesses” component to the Miss Ashland Queen Pageant scheduled during the Ashland Bicentennial. Given her Disney experience as well as her familiarity with Cinderella, Snow White, and the Frozen Princesses (Elsa and Anna), participating in this event would be the next logical step on her path to royalty. So I was a bit disappointed to read the fine print that requires the little princesses to live in the Ashland City School District. How could I possibly convince her parents to move to Ashland by June? Not likely.

However, I really am not overly disappointed that Madelyn will miss out on the princess gig, because our granddaughter does have a bit of the Princess Merida (from the Disney movie Brave) in her as well, and I can just hear repeating Merida’s words when asked about her future: “I don’t want to get married, I want to stay single and let my hair flow in the wind as I ride through the glen firing arrows into the sunset.” And even if she can’t be an official Little Princess of Ashland, there will still be lots for her to do as the Bicentennial Celebration gets underway in the weeks ahead, because the events being planned will offer something for everyone.

One of the first events is Home Saving’s Bicentennial Ballet on May 15-16, as Opus II Dance Studio and the Ashland Regional Ballet treat us to “An Evening at the Old Opera House.” Sounds intriguing! Then there’s a Senior Recognition on June 24th sponsored by Brethren Care and Good Shepherd Lutheran Village. I wonder if I can get in on that now that I have my own Golden Buckeye card?

Ev DeVaul and his United Way Fun Fabulous Friday team will get us in the patriotic mood on June 26th, with selections by the Salvation Army Kroc Center musicians and a variety of Happy 200th birthday activities. Following right on its heels will be Kingston’s Downtown Bicentennial Kickoff on June 27th, an all-day event with music and family fun on the streets of downtown Ashland.

I am hoping to convince the male members of my family to enter the beard growing contest. They should have started before now to win the Longest Beard category, but the Thickest Beard and Best Design Beard/Moustache classes are wide open. And if they shave on May 1, they can join the competition for the Best Effort Beard. I’m guessing that by the award presentation on June 27th, there’ll be quite a few wives, girlfriends and mothers who’ll be hoping that shaving cream will be among the prize items provided by Barbasol.

Buffalo Wild Wings Vintage Baseball, a 5K Walk/Run, a Red, White and Blue Golf Scramble, and an En Plein Air painting experience are all planned over the July 4th weekend, along with the annual Ashland County Historical Society Ice Cream Social and BalloonFest events. The holiday itself will feature an exciting Wendy’s Bicentennial Parade, and the evening will conclude with the traditional July 4th Fireworks, sponsored this year by Coldwell Banker Ward Real Estate in memory of Robert and Margaret Ward. Much more is scheduled throughout July, culminating with a community-wide church service sponsored by Bud and Cuda Ingmand, a fitting occasion to mark the actual founding date of Ashland on July 28th. Not exhausted yet? Events will continue through the rest of the year. Check out www.ashland200.com for details so you don’t miss out.

We had planned to be away during the height of the bicentennial celebration but our plans have changed. Now we’re able to have a “stay-cation” in July, viewing the Minions Movie, awaiting the arrival of the lovely Madelyn Simone’s still-to-be-named sister, and participating in the events of Ashland 200. What a grand celebration it will be!

Saturday, March 7, 2015

July Needs to Hurry Up!

The lovely Madelyn Simone and I are enchanted with the Minions, those wide-eyed, banana-hued creatures who populate the Despicable Me movies. So when we first discovered the trailer for their new movie last November, we were super excited. Madelyn’s immediate reaction was, “Can we go see it today?” Unfortunately, the film won’t be released in theaters until July 10. If we wanted to see it earlier, we could take a trip to Australia, where it is opening on June 18th, but I’m afraid we’re just going to have to wait until it arrives in Ohio.

Try explaining when July will be here to a four-year-old. I started in November: “First we’ll have Thanksgiving, and then Christmas. Then we’ll celebrate your daddy’s birthday, Nana’s birthday, your birthday, Mommy’s birthday, the last day of school . . .” Yes, I’m living in the fantasy land of wanting to reason with a small child, but even as exceptional and amazing as Madelyn is, I finally had to reach deep into my bag of grandparenting tools and say, “We cannot see the Minions Movie today.” “Why?” “Because I said so.”

I was miffed with the Minion marketers because Madelyn and I don’t want to wait nine months to see their movie. I don’t like being teased with what I can’t have, and these late winter days are going by slower than molasses in January, or should I say in March? Will July ever come back to Ohio?

Not only are Madelyn and I anxiously awaiting the return of Kevin, Stuart and Bob to the big screen; we’re also eagerly awaiting another arrival – a new sister for Madelyn. Yes, you’re reading it on the pages of the Times-Gazette. There’s going to be a new baby in the Shade family and the lovely Madelyn Simone is going to be a Big Sister – to a GIRL! That’s been Madelyn’s prediction all along, confirmed just this week by the ultrasound technician and proclaimed to the world on Facebook.

We are definitely excited, although our son Greg is worried about being outnumbered by a wife, two daughters and two female dogs. I know the feeling of being on the losing side of the gender balance in the house. You’ll get used to it, Greg.

Over the years, I've generally been clueless when looking at ultrasound images, but as I gaze at the shadows on the photos Greg and Lauren brought home from their doctor's visit, I can see the tiny hands of my granddaughter, Those are the same hands that will soon touch my cheek and grasp my finger. The coming of this little one feels like a time of advent as we begin to stretch our hearts and arms in a wide welcome for her.

In the early twentieth century, Christopher Morley wrote deeply about family relationships. “And it is as grandmothers that our mothers come into the fullness of their grace. When a man’s mother holds his child in her gladdened arms he is aware . . . of the roundness of life’s cycle, of the mystic harmony of life’s ways. There speaks humanity in its chord of three notes: its little capture of completeness and joy sounding for the moment against the silent flux of time. Then the perfect span is shredded away and is but a holy memory.”

Thelonious Monk had this to say about jazz. "I don't have a definition . . . You're just supposed to know it when you hear it." That's how I feel about Morley's description of coming into the fullness of my grace as a grandmother. I don't quite know how to describe it, but I know it has happened. I value the holy memory that has been, and look forward with anticipation to the new holy memories that will begin to form as a new child nestles in my arms. 

But first March, April, May and June have to serve their time. And then finally, Madelyn, it will be July, with its promise of sun, a bicentennial celebration, the Minions Movie and a new baby. Now. If the ice and snow would just begin to melt . . .